Good news, we found the secret to ending rape! We glorify the rapist and blame the victim. Wait… isn’t that what we’ve been doing all along?
The above tweet has been trending lately, and it’s pissed a lot of people off. Why should girls be afraid of rape? After all, that guy thought you were so appealing that he’d risk life in jail to have sex with you. You should feel proud that your body did the talking for you, that you overpowered his defenses.
No. This kind of thinking is not okay. Someone’s morals are so twisted that they think a man putting his freedom on the line forgives him for compromising someone else’s. What’s shocking is that the original tweet seems to have come from a woman. Does she have no sense of feminism? Not the over-the-top feminazi kind, but the simple desire for equality between the genders, for women to feel safe? Or does she just accept it as a fact of life?
Even more disgusting is that so many people retweeted it. This mentality is not only acceptable, it’s popular. Some people fought back with tweets criticizing this logic, saying “Why are people so scared of murder? You should feel pride that I risked like in jail just to kill you.”
As a male of the species, just the concept of rape fills me with shame and anger. Yes, I understand that we are more sexually charged than women. Everyone has urges. But to think that you would rather violate someone, rob them of their freedom, steal their virginity, traumatize them, and pulverize any feeling of safeness in their lives, just because you couldn’t “go without”? That is pathetic.
Someone who does that does not have an ounce of willpower, does not deserve to call themselves a man, even a human being. One short release in exchange for a lifetime of damage.
What baffles me is that we can’t even agree on that! You’d think most guys would be outraged by rape, but instead men tend to rush to the defense of their brothers, and society follows along behind them. There is no sense of chivalry. Men aren’t proud of their gender. They simply accept it as is, with this fatal flaw that we hold our desires in higher regard than our women.
I wish I could say I was proud of my gender, and work every day to redeem men of the earth. I will always do my best to treat women with respect. I will write novels to call attention to this issue, hold a mirror up in front of society and say “look how hideous you are”. And I consider it my duty, my responsibility, to protect the women in my life from being violated, to help people feel safe, just as any intelligent man should do. This should be a pre-requisite if you ever want to earn the affections of a woman. You ever wonder why there’s such an imbalance of sexual desire in today’s society, why men always want it and women don’t as much? Because as a whole, men love to make it impossible to be trusted. So thank you very much, you’re killing healthy, loving, sexual relationships along with everything else you’ve done.
What can we do to stop this? While there is this huge problem of rape culture, I’ve noticed that books and movies are calling us out on this a little more. For instance, in Game of Thrones there’s a few scenes in which a man puts his life at risk to prevent a woman from being raped. Follow their example, men. We need to redeem ourselves.
